Live Workshop For Married Couples
The Connection Code
A 2-Hour Workshop for Couples to Rediscover Love, Intimacy, Fun, and Affection—Without Traditional Counseling.
A 1-day live workshop to help you rebuild the emotional safety, warmth, and closeness you've lost (without more communication scripts, couples counseling, or rehashing the past).
Live: October 7
Do Any of These Feel Familiar in Your Relationship?
- You feel alone while still married.
- You live together, but you don't really feel together.
- You talk about kids, schedules, bills, work, and logistics, and rarely about anything deeper.
- You're careful with your words, but they still get taken the wrong way.
- Small comments turn into big arguments.
- You catch yourselves keeping score instead of feeling like teammates.
- The warmth between you has quietly been replaced by tension or distance.
- You feel more like roommates than romantic partners.
- You miss the feeling that your spouse is your person.
Do you ever miss the person who's sitting right beside you?
Save My Free SeatHere's what nobody tells you
Most "Communication Problems" Are Actually Connection Problems.
Connection is what determines how communication lands. When you feel safe with each other, you assume positive intent. When you don't, even a gentle word can land as criticism.
- Myth: "We just need to communicate better." Better words don't fix an unsafe connection.
- Myth: "We need more date nights." More time together doesn't undo the emotional blocks that make closeness feel unsafe.
- Myth: "If we solve our biggest problems, we'll feel close again." Couples often try to problem-solve their way into connection, when connection has to come first.
This workshop starts underneath the communication, where the real problem lives: in the connection itself.
Save My Free SeatFor the couple who's already tried everything
You've Tried Everything. So Why Do You Still Feel Alone?
- Tried communicating differently.
- Read the books and listened to the podcasts.
- Gone to counseling.
- Learned the communication tools.
- Tried being vulnerable, and tried giving each other space.
- Tried talking more, then tried talking less.
- Tried just letting things go.
Knowing what to do, and actually being able to do it when you're hurt, triggered, or afraid, are two very different things. That gap is what this workshop closes.
Save My Free SeatFor the partner leaning in
What If Your Spouse Won't Do This With You?
Your spouse doesn't have to be as motivated as you are for you to start changing your side of the pattern. When you stabilize and stop responding the old way, you interrupt the dynamic from your side alone. That doesn't guarantee an outcome, but it gives you somewhere real to begin.
Here's what starts to become possible:
- Bringing something up without bracing for a fight.
- Looking at your spouse and feeling warmth again instead of resentment.
- Feeling like your spouse is on your side again.
- Laughing together, and wanting to spend time together again.
- No longer wondering if you're going to make it.
You may still love each other. You just don't know how to reach each other anymore. That's exactly where this workshop begins.
Save My Free SeatWhat You'll Walk Away With
In this 1-day live workshop, you will learn how to:
Clear the resentment and hurt blocking closeness, before adding new tools on top of it.
Relearn your spouse's inner world (what the Gottman Institute calls Love Maps), and replace judgment with curiosity.
Regulate your nervous system first, then build connection through small, repeated moments instead of one big talk.
This is where things start to change.
This Is For You If
- You feel stuck in the same patterns and don't know how to break them.
- You want to feel truly connected to your partner again, not just coexist.
- You're willing to change your side of the pattern, even if your spouse isn't ready yet.
- You want to understand what's actually driving the disconnect between you.
- You're willing to look at how you show up, not just your partner.
This Is Not For You If
- You're looking for quick fixes or communication scripts.
- You want your partner to change without changing yourself.
- You're not open to taking ownership of your role.
- You're not ready to do deeper work.
Hi, I'm Monika Hoyt
I'm a therapist and relationship coach specializing in marriages and long-term relationships on the brink of separation or divorce.
I walk my clients through an inside-out process of change, combined with a structured approach to creating healthy, authentic relationships.
I've been counseling people for over twenty years. I've completed over 25,000 direct clinical hours and provided clinical supervision to other therapists for four years.
In 2015, I moved into the coaching space and began working for myself, so I'd have the freedom to serve my clients using non-traditional methods that truly work.
What actually rebuilds your relationship is restoring the connection underneath the communication.
What's keeping you stuck right now is simply not knowing how to reach each other again, even after everything you've already tried.
This workshop will show you exactly what's been missing, so you can stop bracing for the next disagreement and start trusting that your spouse has your back.
If you still love each other but can't seem to reach each other, this is where you start.
In this 1-day Connection Code Workshop, I'll show you exactly how I saved our marriage, and how you can start finding your way back to each other too.
Save My Free SeatSave Your Free Seat
Join Monika live on October 7 and begin learning how to rebuild the connection underneath the communication.
Free Live Workshop
FREE
- Live access to the full workshop with Monika Hoyt
- All workshop teaching and exercises in real time
- How to undo years of resentment fast
- Why everything turns into a fight & how to fix it
- How to rebuild emotional connection
- Why traditional therapy doesn't work & what to do instead
Instant Bonus: Understand Your Relationship Mini-Series Upon Registration
No payment required. Register now to receive your confirmation and workshop access details.
Frequently Asked Questions
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When is this live workshop?
The Connection Code Workshop is live on October 7: 4:00 PM Pacific, 5:00 PM Mountain, 6:00 PM Central, 7:00 PM Eastern.
Is this just for married couples, or any couples?
This workshop is built for any long-term couple who wants to feel closer again, married or not.
Will this work for us even if my partner can't attend or doesn't want to attend?
Yes. Your spouse doesn't have to be as motivated as you are for you to begin. When you change your side of the pattern, it can shift the whole dynamic between you.
How long is the workshop?
The workshop runs for 2 hours.
What does free registration include?
Your free registration includes live access to the full two-hour workshop with Monika Hoyt, all workshop teaching and exercises in real time, and the Understand Your Relationship Mini-Series as an instant registration bonus.
Is this a live event, or can I attend virtually from home?
Both. The Connection Code Workshop is a live event hosted entirely online, so you can join from home.
What happens after I register?
You'll receive a confirmation email with the link to join on October 7, plus reminders as the date gets closer.
What Others Are Saying
"It Saved My Marriage"
"I can't say enough good things about this program. Couples counseling had failed me on multiple other occasions. My wife and I were a bit skeptical, and ultimately she chose not to participate. That didn't matter. It saved my marriage and saved my life. Monika helped me change my behavior, outlook, thoughts, and feelings. I became a better partner and parent. I also became happier in life. Best money I ever spent."
"I'm So Blessed and Grateful"
"Monika and everyone on her team are absolute angels! They have been there for me every step of the way, and are always supporting and encouraging my constant expansion in happiness and love! I'm so blessed and grateful to have them in my life. Best decision ever!"
"Highly Recommend This"
"Monika's style will work for everyone. Her insight and intuition are remarkable. She listens and provides input based on what she hears, and often shares a unique and refreshing perspective when I feel stuck in my way of thinking. I would highly recommend Monika and her staff without hesitation!"
Save Your Free Seat
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